Have you ever wondered if you were raising another man’s child?
We sure hope not! This sounds like something you’d hear on a soap opera.
Unfortunately, that was the nagging question on Richard Rodwell’s mind soon after his marriage to his wife Helen fell apart.
As their marriage began deteriorating, Helen would disappear from their home in Peterborough, England, for several days at a time without letting her family know where she was. And when she would return and he would ask where she had been, she would say, “It has nothing to do with you.” This woman would never even leave a note or message letting her husband or children in on her whereabouts.
Come to find out, the daughter and son he had raised into their teenage years were not even his. The poor man finally caught on to her deception when rumors started floating around that his daughter Laura, now 20, was someone else’s. And this is after the fact that Helen was granted custody of the children and he was paying child support every month for four years, which totaled around $25,000.
“People said that Laura didn’t look like me and that Helen had been seeing a teacher who lived next door on the caravan park,” explained Rodwell. “I confronted Helen on the phone but she insisted that I was Laura’s father. Finally, I said I wanted DNA testing.”
Geneticists have been seeing rising cases of deception, infidelity and adultery among couples, which has recently made DNA testing very popular. For a man that once thought he had it all (happily married, two healthy children, a house and a good paying job), he was so terribly wrong!
The DNA testing was done with a swab of Laura’s mouth and when the results came back, Mr. Rodwell was floored. “When I saw the letter stating that I was not Laura’s father I just broke down. I phoned Helen and we had an argument. She didn’t even say sorry,” he said in distress.
In fact, the DNA tests revealed that the children had two separate fathers!
“I still have no idea who Adam’s father is,” he said. “For nearly 17 years I have cared for Laura as my daughter and for Adam for over 14 years and now it’s all gone. It’s so sad.”
Following the results, the children cut off all contact with him. He claims his ex-wife turned them against him. “I would have been happy to have a close relationship with them as a stepfather but Helen wouldn’t allow this and told them to keep away from me,” Rodwell explains.
Recently, he was awarded nearly $40,000 in damages after suing his ex-wife for deceit. The court treated his case similar to bereavement, awarding an amount like the one you would receive if your child died in an accident. In this particular case, the judge even went further than that due to the level of deceit, as well as taking into account the fact that Mr. Rodwell’s second wife is too old to provide him with children. He also won a court order, which forced his wife to move out of their marital home.
When speaking for the first time since the controversial case, Rodwell said, “It’s like a bereavement because I have lost the children that I believed were mine. I treated them both as if they were my own. I was there at their births, went to their nativity plays and helped them with school homework.”
It’s hard to imagine such a thing even happening, but if it wasn’t for the whispering campaign that was going around, he may have never known the truth.
How did the father get everyone to agree to the test, especially the wife?
The wife wouldn’t have to agree to the test. Only the ‘father’ and the children. If the children were his, the results would have show similarities in the DNA markers. Since the children weren’t his, the results did not show the similarities.
It’s quite possible that the DNA test was compelled by a court. If he suspected the kids were not his, and believed he could win the lawsuit, he could have filed a lawsuit, including a motion for the court to compel the test.
Court order.
Best case was that they were his biological children and it puts all the rumors to rest. Worse case is what just happened.
The wife didn’t need to give a swab for the DNA test. Only the children and father.
It was fine that he wanted money back for all the crap his ex put him through. But of he truly loved though kids he would not have let the DNA test change the way he saw them.
Unfortunately, they aren’t his kids.
I disagree. Biology alone doesn’t make you a father.
So true!
Love Red Skelton! Love that you are 1 of (hopefully) many keeping his memory alive!!!
Actually it does. You father children, any fertile dope can do that. To be a parent, now that’s something else which biology can’t do for a father.
There are probably millions of children who were ‘fathered’ by a sperm donor. Those who were raised by a person not their biological DNA have other problems – with the possibility of marrying someone who might be their bio sibling.
Some of those ‘donor’ children were then abandoned by a parent, others grew up not knowing their father was not bio and others grow up knowing – same can be true of adopted children.
I would like to think that all children are loved even if their parents made stupid mistakes. Not all are – even by bio parents.
Are people just unable to read? It says right in the article the KIDS cut him off and HE said that he would have liked to stay in their life as a step father because he cared about them.
Reading: you fail.
They were probably hurt that he asked for the DNA test. Maybe they’ll change their minds. Give ‘em some time.
I really hope so
Hurt that he wanted to know the truth? How dare he.
It has nothing to do with reading-it’s about sexism. Take a look around you-no matter the circumstances someone will come along and play “blame the man” because, after all, no WOMAN ever does anything wrong.
Heck-in the UK over 80 percent of all boys in school believe that adults think girls are better than boys and themselves believe girls are better than boys. Welcome to “equality”…oh, wait…yeah…sorry…I mean welcome to the new sexism.
WTF? I’m in the UK a mother and grandmother and that is just the daftest thing I have heard in a very long time.
Lets not keep turning everything into a sexist argument, yes she played away but so do many men and women. What she did was wrong if she was not 100% sure she should have told her husband
If I’d said that in the 90s it would have been taken as evidence I was a sexist.
I would cut off all contact with him too. He said “I would have been happy to have a close relationship with them as a stepfather…” He should have said that he was still their father no matter what the results of a test are. Any man can provide sperm, but it takes a special man to be a father. His attitude went from father to stepfather. That would make me not want to have anything to do with him either.
Just like all the rest, understand where he comes from, having that dropped in his lap and then made a fool of, what he did was give the kids a choice, not his fault that their mother seemed to bend over and take it from every passing candy cane without the decency of a raincoat, nor is it theirs, she is the one who not only deceived her husband but her kids also. That is one hurtful moment for the kids and the man. But if the shoe was on the other foot he would be covered in tar feathered and run out of town. Wake up. They had the choice to keep contact, but if they were happy believing a lie, bad on them. Mom should be tied to a anchor and dropped of the Scottish coast.
I was thinking the same thing….. Stepfather
Nats – Ignorance is bliss. Right?
Uhhh if you read it after the test the kids immediately stopped talking to him. He wanted a relationship. The said thing is many woman have done this, but you still only her about the guys.
Not true. My ex-husband, a true narcissist, has been telling our kids what a ‘terrible’ person I am, even tho I never talked to the kids about him. When someone is immature, gender doesn’t matter.
It said the EX wife was the one who damaged the relationship, and convinced the kids NOT to see him anymore HEwanted a realtionship with the kids, the women should of had to pay ALOT more than that!!!
He didn’t let it change him. The article stated “Following the results, the children cut off all contact with him. He claims his ex-wife turned them against him. “I would have been happy to have a close relationship with them as a stepfather but Helen wouldn’t allow this and told them to keep away from me,” Rodwell explains.”
He said in the article that he wanted to keep contact with the kids but his ex refused for them to see him again. The article also stated he cared for them for 17 yrs so they should be out of high school by now and should be allowed to make that decision for themselves.
Nats you’re an idiot, learn to read.
“I would have been happy to have a close relationship with them as a stepfather but Helen wouldn’t allow this and told them to keep away from me,” Rodwell explains.
His feelings didn’t change, according to him, his wife turned the children against him. Might be true since her behavior indicates a self-centered person with a poor sense of boundaries.
I agree with Nats. Biology doesn’t make one a parent. It’s love and doing the things that this man did (helping with homework, attending plays, etc.) before he learned there was no blood connection. The truly sad thing is that he let DNA matter so much to him. Poor kids.
Did you even read the article? Because you’ve just demonstrated extremely poor comphrension skills!
There is no real relationship based upon deception. Too many women claim that DNA doesn’t matter, which is funny considering she decided to lay with someone who is not her husband and then cuckold him. If it doesn’t matter, why not be open about it and let him have a choice. I’ve met too many women who don’t care as long as they get to carry a child to term and find some poor sucker to take care of it, never mind if its his or not.
Its sad he wanted to know the truth?
What the hell are you saying that he let the DNA matter so much you’re stupid because that was a dumb state !!!!! Smmfh
It didn’t change how he saw the children, she turned them against him. He is the victim here so quit trying to justify her cruel behavior. She had no right to do this to the poor man and should have to pay ten fold what he was awarded. I would expect that as the children age and see ‘mother’ for the rotten person she really is, they will be reunited with him as their (step) father voluntarily. Because they will come to understand that he always loved them and still does. Where as she never did and merely used them as pawns for her own ends.
He stated he wanted to continue a relationship with them as a ‘stepfather’ but they cut him off.
NATS…did you READ the article? They left him…he didn’t leave them!!
The thing was he did not want the relationship to change with the kids.. the mother got the kids against him and I think that is wrong.
I think the kids are wrong and I feel that he is a stand-up guy and should be applauded.
Did you read the part about how the kids wouldn’t have anything to do with him after the results came in? He said he wanted to keep a relationship.
I guess it was worth $40,000 to lose his children. Raising them as his own is a declaration that they are his and pulling that stunt at this point in time leaves him somewhat less than sympathetic. If I were one of those kids, I would cut off contact too. What a cad.
too bad they arent his, tool. nice victim blaming.
I think you need to re-read the article again.
You appear to have misunderstood the entirety of it.
FOAD and ESAD. He didn’t cut them off, they cut themselves off after their dear POS mother talked to them and demonized him for her actions. Facepalm.
White House Landlord – Raising them as his own is NOT a declaration that they are his. The DNA test was. That is the point. It is a primary goal of men to pass on their genetic bloodline to their children. He was deceived. You know, tricked, scammed, screwed over, ripped off. Use your brain for once in your life.
Please tell me you’re not breeding
You are sad and obviously an angry woman. The ex-wife is sick and deranged witch and should have lost custody due to mental and emotional instability and abuse since she LIED to her children for their entire lives.
He didn’t say that he didn’t want be their father, he just wanted to know if they were his kids or not. There’s nothing wrong with that. Why wouldn’t he want to know if his wife was faithful to him or not after all those years. He dedicated his life to his wife, AND to kids that turned out to not even be his, even though he was hearing so much to the contrary. What a bunch of cads his ex wife and kids are. I think that you need to WAKE UP.
A cad??? WHO went out and cheated and tried to pass off the kids of other men off on someone else? WHO didn’t have the decency to apologize when the lies & deceit came to light? WHO Cheated during the relationship while the “father” supported those kids financially and emotionally? You sound like a morally bankrupt individual the way you toss all the blame off on him, the VICTIM. I guess birds of a feather truly flock together, and excuse for each other too..
Oh please. He is precisely that. As a child who was raised by parents who I have no biological relation to I am deeply offended by his proclamation that he “would have raised them as a stepfather”. Your father is the man you call “daddy” and has nothing to do with DNA. It is horrible that the mother has played him and her children for fools all these years, but by making a court case out of it he is basically stating that he regrets all the money and time he has put into being their parent. He is saying that because they are not his biological children they are now worth less to him… and that is just despicable.
Unless your parents were lied to about the fact that you were not really their child, this is not the same situation. He is not suing the children, he’s suing the wife because she is a cheater, a liar, and a terrible person. Plus he had to pay child support on kids that weren’t even his! He still tried to connect with the kids, so obviously they aren’t worthless to him. But when you’ve been living a lie for 20 years, you would demand some compensation too.
Umm, wtf did you read ? He didn’t say that at all. Sorry if you have issues, he said he wanted to be their for them. This whore tried to pass the financial responsibiliy of her unprotected infidelity off on this guy. This guy lost everything and she won’t even let him see them. Want to guess why ? So the kids don’t get to know the truth and she what kind of person this guy is and what kind of a person she is. That dear, is despicable, just as your blaming the victum because of need to rush to judegement.
Alyssa, I concur. Based on what was written in the article, the man is the only father/dad they know. If they were adopted, he would be in the same predicament.
Horrible if he did say ‘stepfather’ … the ‘kids’ will either grow into mature adults who will contact him. If he’s not open to that, shame on him. Neither of the children made the mess.
Your parents knew what they were getting when they chose to raise you. He did not. See the difference?
A father provides the sperm and daddy provides love, finance, support and all that a child needs to make it in this world. The father has the option of staying just the father or becoming daddy and taking his responsibilities seriously. He had every right to know if those were his children, just as they had every right to know if he was their father. I think they need to do the test with the boy over, he looks just like him to me. Who knows they may have known all along and didn’t tell him. They may have a relationship with their bio father and not telling, the reason he has not heard from them.
Well you have a point and I think all the raising of the children as his own and then paying to support them after a divorce and all the time involved he should of got a lot more then was awarded by the courts and as there mother has turned them against him as well if she had not done that he might of treated her better and not had her put on the street and out of there marrage house (cant call it a home with what she pulled) and maybe the true male doners of spearm (not fathve to fathers as they had nothing to do with raising there offspring) should call her a cowbird as the way she was doing to him.. ( a cowbird will lay its eggs in other birds nest so they dont have to raise there own young) from sounds of things she was not realy intrested in heer own kids as she would run off and not even let her youngsters know where she was.
Sorry, he’s not the cad, you witless cretin. His ex-wife is. She’s the one who perpetrated a fraud, you imbecile. Reading comprehension, get some. Facepalm.
A stunt?? Are you inexperienced or just plain stupid? You can’t help how you feel and not knowing, more often than not, eats away at you far worse than the knowledge of the outcome does. He had a right and a need to know. He did nothing wrong and when the
children are of age, if they have any common sense, they will get in touch with him again and after hearing what he has to say, and make their own decisions. You clearly have issues to work through if you can’t understand why he did what he did. He doesn’t need forgiveness, her needs less people like you in this world and so do we!
I agree… I think it’s pretty sad that after raising them as his own he decides money is more important. I don’t think those kids needed any help turning against him… I would have too.
You say that because you did not raise kids as your own to finally find out they are not yours, that is enough to make you want to disown kids and throttle the mother
What I want to know is this: Why did he say he had only taken care of the girl for the past 17 years and the boy 14 years? The article said she’s 20, so where was he during those other 3 years? It doesn’t make sense.
Read the article. They were divorced and mom got custody and he paid child support for 4 years. He was there, just not all the time.
Kate it’s possible that you’re too stupid to be on the internet, please log off!
Is this fitting punishment for her? that’s a rhetorical question. of course not! Imagine the trauma on the child knowing mom was sleeping around while being married and now, turns out to more than one father. She’s a horrible person that needs much more than a simple punishment of 40K imposed on her. I hope the kids end up hating her and I hope all her friends gossip about what a tramp she is…as for the dad, hope he wins the Mega-Millions…..
In my state, if a married women conceives children while married, the husband is responsible for the children regardless of they are his.
There is enough deceit in this world. When a spouse is deceitful and unfaithful, there should be NO responsibility of the other spouse to care for someone else’s children.
What state do you live in? Most states have a presumption of paternity created by a marriage relationship. Unfortunately, DNA results CAN disturb that presumption, but that test would have to occur after getting past the equitable estoppel doctrine that questions whether such a test is in the best interest of the children to disrupt a relationship with the man they have believed to be their father. Clearly this man didn’t care so much about that. Deceit is a deplorable condition in any relationship but hey, don’t tell me he didn’t have a clue along the way. Only when he had to pay child support, and likely saw college expenses on the horizon did it matter more to him than the harm it brought on the kids. He’s the crudball in this one. You married a ‘ho’ – get over it and don’t blame the kids.
Gail,
You are really full of it. I seriously doubt that any man would knowingly pay the daily expenses of two children, while having serious doubts as to him being their natural father, in a situation similar to this one. He may have had thoughts while they were growing up but obviously they didn’t rise to the level of pushing him to have them tested. I’m sure he may have even been in denial through those years. That type of news would be devastating to any man! What a complete and total feeling-less callous slut! This man was still willing to carry on a close relationship with the children but the slut turned them against him! After he and the slut were divorced, “the dream was over”, there wasn’t a lot of reason for denial anymore; that’s when he could sit back and run every thing through his mind and make a reasonable deduction! He carries absolutely NO fault in any of this! I bet you he would have been willing to help either or both children with college expenses, if they were having a relationship with him but the skank saw to that already! At least he got some satisfaction out of it, through the court system and he cannot be forced to pay for anything! I hope everything this slut dished out to this man, comes back on her two fold!!!
In CA, any child born to a married couple is presumed to be the husbands, regardless of DNA. We went thru infertility issues, and the OBGYN had us sign paperwork that we understood this.
Seems Folks are not getting it here at least some of them get it.
However inspite of the DNA testing he had/has a lot of time and heart invested with the youngsters, I dont know what the rules in Great Britian as from my reading this is where it took place so taking that into count as what was done it is a shameful trick to pull on him.. (like my sister stuck a fella for a abortion when she had a historectomy after her son was born ) the two of them would make a mell of a hess for fellas..
That’s immoral. Decent people need to get that changed. At least in this case the man got some justice in the one sided court system.
Sasha – Your state sucks. If my wife becomes a ho and starts popping out children with other men, she can screw off, take the bastard children with her, and then let her boyfriend know that sooner or later I might be paying him a visit with my S&W 357. And no, I will not be paying a dime to her, regardless of what bulls*(%^ law says I am supposed to.
and that should be a crime in itself. It is a shame when a man tries to do right by his family and then he finds out that it is not his and the court has the nerve to say “Well its ok for your wife to cheat and pretty much its your fault so now you take care of another man’s child” That is so damn wrong.
Nuke your state.
You know, its not always blood that makes a family, but I’m glad he got some compensation back. Clearly flat out deception by the ex wife, boo on her. Now the kids are caught between knowing their father isn’t their real father and if they find their real dads, probably find out their real dads were just in it for a piece of booty nothing more.
I would guess the children will return to the ((step) father in a matter of time, once they work it through their heads. He is the only father they’ve known. What she did is deplorable to both the man and the children. At least he got some justice and as I’ve said, the children will reunite with him eventually.
A family member of mine abandoned her 10 year old son with her husband and ran off with another man. When their divorce was final, she told her now ex-husband that the little boy wasn’t his. The ex-husband said he didn’t care and has fought her tooth and nail to keep him. The ex is a decent, stable man who has provided a very good home for this child and has been the only real parent this kid has ever known. Mom would rather party and has been in and out of this kid’s life since he was born. Lies about paternity hurt the men, of course, but they can be devastating to the children. Let’s not forget that.
What a good dad!!
This is why you never stick your dick in crazy
I love how the women blame the man in this article and then proceed to spit insults about him. TYPICAL WOMEN, cheating, lying, conniving whores. The kids are pieces of crap too. “Let’s cut off all contact with my father because my mother that cheated on him and he caught her lie.” You’ll never learn regardless. I sure do hope they reenact the ‘rule of thumb’ law again.
Unfortunately I have to agree somewhat with your assessment of American women today. I would reserve judgment on the children, they are children and simply found themselves in this mess. As I’ve stated above, once the kids work it through their heads without the woman’s influence, I would expect that they will seek out their (step) dad and rebuild their relationship with him.
Who says “caravan park” to talk about a trailer park? The English; maybe Canadians, but not Americans. Lots of tramps in lots of countries. Lots of cheating men, too. This one story just happens to have a good man and a bad woman. Sociopaths come in both genders, and are great at manipulation and have no conscience. Good people have to open their eyes to evil and recognize it and avoid it.
As long as our society tolerates Kim Kardashian and her whore mother or playboy bunnes as role models we will be seeing more and more of this. Disgusting.
Umm where you getting American women? At the beginning of this article it states they are from Peterborough, England. So, wondering who your response is to, or is just your general opinion? Also, my husband adopted our daughter because her p.o.c American birth father would not involve himself in her life. Any time that he did spend with her, was done because of me! He also never paid a dime of child support, and he had the opportunity her first 3 years of life, til my husband adopted her. So your comment is hilarious to me, I know way more crappy “fathers” than mothers….
Too many people have reading comprehension issues apparently.
Firstly , it wasn’t he who broke off contact with the children as they made that choice all by themselves.
Secondly , how would you like to be used as nothing more than an ATM so that a conniving , selfish person can turn “your” children against you ? He was literally having to pay for her to turn the kids against him.
Lastly , this guy should get a hell of a lot more than a few bucks and his own home back. He should be able to sue the real fathers for all the child support they never had to pay. Since it’s unlikely that they’ll be found very easily , it should be put on his ex-wife’s shoulders to cover the debt and leave it to her to collect them.
Maybe we’re not getting the full story here but we all know that making a man pay for children that aren’t even his is simply wrong. What’s pathetic is how many people just assume without examining for a moment the idea that if a man is deceived into raising children that aren’t even his , he should be forced to do so while kept in the dark about the truth.
By that logic , I should be allowed to steal your money , buy myself a car , and then force you to make the payments on it because you sat in it once without realizing that it was paid for via the money I stole from you in the first place.
Y’all okay with that ? Yeah , of course you are.
Chris K – Well Said. Well Said.
Smart guys require a prenuptial agreement and smart guys require a DNA test to confirm paternity before signing a birth certificate. Why be a cuckold?
Really smart guys procreate through a sperm bank or like Bruce from Memphis, and others, breed many women and leave it to the taxpayers to provide for their upbringing. Recall in Shakespeare’s time a cuckold was the funniest thing around and all wives were unfaithful. I thought every youth imagined marrying a nymphomaniac who owned a saloon.
well did anyone learn the lesson from this article? exactly Jimmy, it doesnt pay to be a whore
I think DNA tests should be required for all births. That way, father’s will know up front if the kids are his or not without having to have an awkward conversation in which he has to ask for a DNA test. Women should never be allowed to deceive men in this way.
Once he decided to test if they weren’t his children, he proved that he wasn’t their father. I would have cut off communication too.
You are ignorant
Yes, you are ignorant
I had a DNA test of my first child. Couldn’t trust the mother, loved the child, but had to know. I debated over it for 3 years (only became suspicious when he was 2 and found out about her cheating). One of the hardest decisions I ever made. Decided to keep it secret and just so I would know how to deal with the ex. He was mine, what a relief, but the point is one can have to know and love the child all at the same time.
He should have also sought damages for services rendered (childcare, etc) and reimbursement for whatever expenses he paid over their lifetimes. 40k is way too little for what that whoring winch put him through.
I agree. They should add another zero on the end at least.
Everyone keeps calling them children. The Daughter is 20 – Adult. The son is 17 – Nearly adult. They are making conscious adult choices to isolate themselves from their father. At this point in their lives they are ignorant. Hopefully as they grow, they will see the error of their ways. The mother – Siring children by other men, and then deceiving her husband about it. Lower life form to say the least.
I agree in this day and age when any birth occurs a DNA test should be given. It should be standard. Sadly his story is only one story we have heard of. There are countless ones we have never heard of however most men do not get an award or the very least they never learn the truth. We must ask ourselves why? Some lawyers pooh pooh the very thought of asking for a DNA test for divorced Dads when in fact they should support the truth. So much in our world revolves around money. Every child and adult should know who their bio dad is. One more thing as a woman and mother myself, I find it offensive that some other women found this fathers quest for truth to be unjust. How could you? Why would you want your flesh and blood to live their life as one big lie when the mother should be ashamed of herself and you should be ashamed of her. Shame on you too.
I tip my hat to this man who now knows the truth and justice has been served. This is not about a ruthless man looking for money but a man of character and morals to find the truth. by By standing up for himself maybe the adult children can learn a lesson to live by and hopefully the 20 year old will not follow in her mothers footsteps. I wish him well and he tries to put his life of lies back together. Sir, I hope you support men in their search for truth. There are many mothers who agree with what you have done.
I disagree with forcing everyone into a DNA test because SOME women can’t keep their legs closed. That is an unreasonable expense to have to fork over in addition to everything else that comes with a new baby.
A DNA test does not really cost too much at all. The only people who benefit from not DNA testing are whores who will be caught out. A faithful wife will have her fidelity confirmed by the test.
Why, exactly do you have a problem with it?
I MADE my son go get an DNA test on his daughter because the mother of his daughter was quit the whochey, and her mother told us “— is not even SURE your son is the father during a fight about her but,,,,, we allready knew he WAS. it was a way to try to keep him from his own daughter. but lucky for him he is the father and a GOOD one at that, but she had another child a son she was telling 2 diffrent guys that each of them were the father lol. poor guys they were both giving to her diapers/money etc.
It is also important for the children to know because there are health issues that are hereditary.
Too bad they made the wrong choice.
My son’s ex told him that his youngest child, age 8, wasn’t his & that she had a DNA test to prove it. She told the little girl about her “new real daddy,” introduced her to the man she claims is the father & gave him full visitation rights to her. My son took her to Court to get improved custody arrangements & stop some of the other garbage she was pulling. She claimed in court that he wasn’t the father & had no rights to her. When asked to produce the DNA test, of course she couldn’t. She was a pathological liar & was cheating on him.
My point – my son did not want a DNA test. He said whether she was his blood or not, she WAS his daughter in all the important ways. He was there to catch her when she was born & had loved & cared for her all her life. He WAS her father. In their state, a child born within a marriage is automatically the Fathers unless there is a DNA test so ex got slammed good at the hearing.
This “father” is a piece of garbage and I don’t blame the kids for cutting him off. What a terrible thing to do to them..
Ken your son was a noble in his action. However, No one should be forced to absorb a lie & live with it like it is no big deal. This women/mother is the “piece of grabage” she lied, to her husband, to her children & her family as a whole. Her husband was victimized as were the children. With your line of thinking the mother is allowed to lie, cheat & steal (her husbands diginity) without having to answer for it. That is insane. She is in short evil & selfish.
You say that now, but obviouslyt the wife was a liar, cheat, selfish & out for money. What do you think would happen had she met someone else w/ more money & decided she didnn’t want this father to have any more contact w/ these kids. I don’t care what state you are in, if a female decides she wants to prove someone is not the father, she can always prove this 7 if its proven your not the father, all your rights go right out the window. In this sorry state, they say the same thing, “all children conceived which married are automatically coonsidered the father’. Well guess what, when he mother divorced the father after raising the kids for 12 years together,s he decided she didn’t want the father involved in their lives anymore. She got a DNA test for both kids behind his bacck. When the custody hearing date came,s he produced the kids & the real father’s name, proving him to be the real father, the courts sided with t he mom & he can no longer have contact w/ the children. The mother even took out a restraining order because she wants the children to be allowed the time to get to know their real father. You can look @ a DNA test as being spiteful or whatevver you want, all you want, the DNA test is to protect your rights as a parent from spiteful woman & men.
You should be proud to have raised such a wonderful man. He is right… children are born in your heart not through some ridiculous DNA test. A real father doesn’t care about DNA tests because he has fallen in love with his child for life.
Good to hear you don’t have grandchildren.
The real loss here is for those poor children.
Weird that they edited out all references to this happening in the UK. You can read about it on the dailymail site. I don’t think this likes URLs posted.
This woman lied not only to the man and the children but to a court. She had to claim he was the father. That was “perjury”. If we are truly a govt of laws and not of men and knowing a Law was broken,she should be punished.
“It’s like a bereavement because I have lost the children that I believed were mine. I treated them both as if they were my own. I was there at their births, went to their nativity plays and helped them with school homework.”
Douche bag move!! He didn’t lose them, if he was any kind of father/dad/man it shouldn’t matter…Yes I would be pissed but those are his kids, he walks out of their lives and they have a whore mom and no father.
What are you talking about? He did lose them. He lost the children he believed was his. There’s a reason each child born is matched to his/her parent. The reason is they don’t want someone else’s child. They want THEIR child. If all babies were alike, then we would have a communal nursery and would just pass you the nearest baby as you left the hospital. We don’t do that because people don’t want any baby. Again, they want their baby. This man lost the chance to have a child with his eyes, a child with his nose, a child with his bow-legged walk. My oldest son looks just like me and my youngest is great in comprehension like me. All of them are tall like my side of the family. This man lost the chance at all of that. All of it. I love my children because they’re MINE. Not just because I raised them but because I carried them. I don’t want anyone else’s children. I want my own. And most people want their own which is why they have them. So I definitely understand this man wanting his own too. You’re probably one of those lying, trifling women then thinks if she can fool him long enough, then he should love them and everything will be fine. Well it’s not fine and I wouldn’t have blamed him if he had knocked her head off her shoulder. Somethings are worth going to jail over.
If I found out today that my two kids were not biologically mine, it would not change the way I feel about them. They are not mine because of any genetic markers but because I raised them. I was there when they said their first word, took their first step, cheered them on during the good times and cried with them during the bad times – no DNA test in the world can change that. I understand wanting to know the truth but it was at the expense of the children involved. As a parent you put your children’s needs first. I was a little disgusted at his comment that he wanted to stay in their lives as a stepfather – his feelings towards them did change – too bad he couldn’t see that they were still the same individuals he raised.
How would you feel if the person you had these kids w/ decided to walk away from you & take these kids. That other parent goes behind your back to have a DNA test to prove you are not the biological parent & prove tht someone else is the biological parent. At the next hearing, yu get slapped w/ a restrainin order telling you that you an no longer have contat w/ your kids because now that the mom knows who the real biological parent is, she wants the kids to not be confused allowed the time to get to know the rel father they have be deprived of all the times she was not sure whomt he real father was. A DNA test protects a parent against spiteful individuals. if you have it in you to deceive someone about their true parenal status, their is nothingyou wouldn’t do.
Just because you can ignore reality, doesn’t mean everyone else will. Foolish thinking is usually crushed by harsh reality.
The only ones who lose here are those young people. If this guy loved these kids and was thinking about their best interest, it wouldn’t matter. Her behavior was deplorable, but the kids still lose, and so does that dad.What would you rather have $40,000 or realationships that you worked on for 20 years? Making a point and revenge seem a little hollow after all the time that had passed. Adopted kids aren’t “blood related” either. Too much selfishness in the world. Both parents only thinking about what they wanted at a certain moment in time, without the thought of consequences.
He attempted to stay in their lives as a stepfather despite this whore. But the dumb selfish bitch bad mouthed him AND THEY REJECTED HIM. You are going to call him a cad; for what.??? He still tried to be a father to those kids that weren’t even his. Are you nuts? or just stupid? Are you giving that whore a free pass? This guy did nothing wrong and I don’t blame him for wanting his money back. Let me ask you a question; would you give a woman your money for raising kids from another man??? STFU.
Sorry Mr. Rodwell….you just met and married “a really bad apple”. I’ve had my share of the deceitfuls,too, so I’m not being sarcastic.
Next time you meet a wo-man ( “woe-man” ),remember the old song that has this line…”take time to know her, it’s nothing overnight, friend” and heed the explicit caveat. Good luck in your next search !
If I was the judge, I’d get the kids some counseling and see if they and Mr. Rodwell could remain in a healthy relationship. If not, I’d make that woman pay him substantially for emotional damage and distress and I’ll make her pay for his shrink’s bills too. I’ve met a few bad,deceitful ones but I hope and pray that I never meet anyone like this.
Don’t get it…anyone who’s been around the american female knows how worthless and scheming she can be to get what she wants. Hoes will say and do anything to make sure someone else puts a roof over her head or gives her money or shiny trinkets….anything but work, that is
This bitch is from the UK, not Ameria, so freak you. Don’t blame American women because you’re a loser who attracts losers. You can go to any downtown area or any business and see nothing but women working everyday for theirs. As a CPA, I work everyday for mine. Unfortunately ignorance attracts ignorance so you just stuck with what you get.
Shannon: I agree, there are a lot of decent women. However, there are also many nasty, unfaithful women like the one in the article. As to the man in the article, he had suspicions early on. I can’t entirely blame him for wanting to know. Call it a male thing. Many men have been caught in the same trap. In America, a lot of courts will make a non-biological father pay regardless of DNA thanks to the idiots at social services. Conversely, we have too many deadbeat dads adding to the problem. Societal morals are very low these days.
That´s how I feel about stupid immigration laws, but you make a very good point.
Clinics that test for genetic diseeases, such as Hunington’s Disease have found that numbers as high as 13% of children tested were not offspring of the purported father. The shocking part is that the clinics are not allowed to report this finding to the father. This is done because of fear of the resulting domestic violence.
Why do people keep stating negative comments about this being an American women thing. This couple is from Peterborough England. Not the USA. They are not Americans.
The cost for raising these children to age 20 is much more than $40,000 (in other words the mother got off pretty easy) and the emotional toll must have been tremendous. Not sure what state but in some states the courts make the father pay for college education which could be another substantial cost.