Narcissistic People Can’t Achieve Long-Term Relationships

Research conducted by Michael Dufner, of Humboldt University of Berlin, recently revealed that narcissistic people seem to find it difficult to maintain long-term relationships, but are quite successful in finding dates.

The study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and based on 61 young heterosexual men who claimed to be narcissistic. While Dufner found that those with this particular type of personality trait are great at impressing people and hooking up, they often fail when it comes to lasting love.

Typically inherent in those who enjoy leadership positions, since they are capable of dominating others without explanation, narcissism is believed to peak during adolescence and decline with age and is more prevalent for men to be narcissistic than women across their lifespans.

“This may be associated with their need to put their own desires ahead of others,” he suggested. “These people have individualistic goals and exhibit very little interest in pushing themselves too much into romantic relationships.”

Despite the desire to fulfill their need for constant positive reinforcement, other people’s problems always tend to come second to their own.

Each subject was paid to approach 25 various women they didn’t know and ask them for their contact information, such as email, phone number of Facebook contact. On average, each male was successful in approaching around 23 women. Dufner pointed out that these men were physically attractive, but “may only be appealing in short term.”

“We focused on narcissism as a personality trait, not the personality disorder. This means that everybody has a certain narcissism level — for some it is higher, for others lower”, said Dufner.

Usually, around the four-month mark, when satisfaction generally reaches its peak in any dating relationship, people find out they are dating a narcissist when their true colors bleed through their mask.

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