Brother and Sister Come Out to Parents as Transgender a Month Apart

Two siblings from Ohio have given their parents shocking news.

Russie, 20, and Aly, 17, McGarrity have come out to their parents as transgender only a month apart from each other. They would both rather “be hated” for who they are “than loved for who they’re not.”

These brave siblings knew they were different for as long they can remember. Aly always preferred football over dress up and Russie preferred the latter.

All throughout high school, Russ was bullied for his androgynous appearance and eventually fell into depression. Students would run around and call him words like “fag” and “gay” as he wore Ugg boots and makeup. The school even threatened to expel him when he ran to the girl’s restrooms.

Aly on the other hand kept her secret hidden better. She was known as a thriving tomboy. She told her brother her decision of wanting to be a boy a few days shy of her 15th’ birthday and he encouraged her to tell their parents.

Aly told her parents, “I know that I’m transgender. I’ve always wanted to be a boy. I never told you this but when I was little, I would go to sleep and wish that I’d wake up a boy. Every time we did the wishbone at Thanksgiving and I won, I would wish that I was a boy.”

Mother, Beth McGarrity was shocked but comforted Aly, telling her she would support and love her no matter what. She then told her husband Russ Sr. and they both agreed that their love would never waver.

Approximately one month later, Russ came out to his parents too. As he began to cry, Beth knew where the conversation was headed and said, “no matter what you tell me, I’ll still love you.”

Aly now goes by Gavin and Russie by Rai.

Rai has undergone facial surgery to look more feminine, and Gavin is awaiting a breast removal surgery in the summer.

Russ Sr. laughed as he remembers when he and his wife were first starting a family and how they wanted one boy and one girl. “It…happened, we didn’t have one of each—just in a different order than we originally thought.” he said.

Beth said, “People ask me what I’ve lost, but I don’t feel that I’ve lost anything. I have my son and daughter the way they should be…You can’t ask for any more than that.”