Cuffing Season is officially upon us. Cuffing Season is a modern term, defined by Urban Dictionary as a time “during the Fall and Winter months [when] people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be ‘cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship.”
Sheena Sharma, a writer for Elite Daily, was feeling especially single due to the holiday season and decided to post an ad on Craigslist for a cuddle buddy.
She wanted to understand why cuddling seemed to be reserved and intimate while having sex with a stranger is so casual. She also wanted to know if it was just single women like herself who desired to be cuddled during the cold months, or if it was more gender-neutral.
Her curiosity fueled her to put out her ad. She included her body size, height, age and relationship status. Along with her basic information, she added what she was specifically looking for.
In her ad, she emphasizes in capitalized letters that this entails, “NO SEX, JUST CUDDLING.”
She was bombarded with a wide array of responses from guys who didn’t care for sex at all, guys who understood the significance of a good cuddle session, guys who were too eager, guys who were extremely lonely, and guys who just needed someone to talk to.
Here are a few of their responses:
“Question: When cuddling, can I tell you my issues and stuff. I’m cool with no sex or love; I just want another opinion at what I do.”
“Glad that I saw your post. I was thinking of posting something very similar. I am interested in a non-sexual cuddle, respectful touch, warm hugs etc. I am 32 year old, an accountant, live and work around the Times Square area, 5’11” and average built.”
“Well this is interesting. Care to meet for a drink tonight at seven to discuss this cuddling thing further? If it matters, 6’1″, 173 lbs here, obsessively fit, live in Manhattan…and crave the healing properties of “the spoon.” I’m a total gentleman and will travel wherever you wish tonight. So…feeling spontaneous?”
“just got out of a six-year relationship and am going through affection withdrawal lol, but with my busy schedule, I don’t have time for the whole dating scene. I’m not looking for sex; I’m just looking to cuddle and show affection, possibly make out. If you’re interested, just reply here with a pic.”
She didn’t respond to any of them. She realized that men craved a cuddle buddy just as much as women do. She felt like she would owe her potential bachelors somewhat of an emotional experience that would fill an emotional void in their lives. It was too much responsibility for her.
She admits she would message the lonely 32-year-old accountant guy who just needed someone to talk to if she had to take her pick.
The moral of the story? If you want to find a cuddle buddy for the holiday season, an ad on Craigslist may give you many options.
Just understand what you’re getting yourself into.