How to Know If You’re Dating a Former Lesbian

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During one of our recent editorial meetings, we started talking about Chirlane McCray, the wife of New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio, who for years identified as a lesbian, and began wondering why she switched teams.

This discussion led to one of the First to Know editors mentioning having two friends who had been lesbians for years, but who were now in serious relationships with men. Not only did this spur the other editors and writers to talk about women they know who have done the same thing (we named these ladies “hasbians,” by the way), we soon realized that more and more women who were once in same-gender relationships at one point in their lives are now¬†jumping back over the proverbial fence to straight town.

We have no idea why there are so many former lesbians, it’s just something we’ve noticed. And while this doesn’t seem to be an issue for the straight man in these relationships (does he really think he’s got the skills to eventually get two women at once?), we thought it would be fun to give guys a list of clues to help them figure out whether or not the woman they’re with used to be a lesbian.

Yes, we had some lesbians and hasbians help us out with this list. And, no, it’s not a scientific study — this is just for fun. But you never know: For some men, it could prove very insightful.

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