We admit it: We women are a confusing, confusing species.
We say we want one thing and then we turn around and want something else. A new example: We say we want you to help around the house, but when you put on that apron and start cooking we think it’s kinda off-putting. At least that’s what a new study from the University of Washington suggests.
Sociologists surveyed around 4,500 heterosexual married couples and found when men help around the house with chores such as cooking and ironing, they get less sex. Household tasks that seem “girly” in nature seem to turn women off. For couples where the men did traditional male-type chores like car maintenance and yard work, the sex count was 1.6 times higher per month than couples who followed less traditional gender roles.
The long standing belief –backed by previous studies — was that couples where both partners split up the housework had more sex, but those studies never took into account the specific types of chores the husbands were doing.
Co-author Julie Brines, a UW associate professor of sociology said “The results show that gender still organizes quite a bit of everyday life in marriage. In particular, it seems that the gender identities husbands and wives express through the chores they do also help structure sexual behavior.”
But guys, don’t think this is a ticket to write off doing any grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning from now on. Sabino Kornrich, a researcher at the Juan March Institute in Madrid warns “Men who refuse to help around the house could increase conflict in their marriage and lower their wives’ marital satisfaction.”
So you still need to help out — just help out by mowing the lawn and fixing the car tire. Oh, and take the trash out, while you’re at it. Thanks!