A new trend is on the rise both here and in Europe among virgins. Young women in their 20s who’ve never had sex before are having babies. Many of them are opting for IVF, but some may be getting pregnant while “messing around” albeit without losing their virginity.
Twenty-five young women in the UK, all of whom are hetereosexual in their twenties, have opted for IVF in the past five years because they feel ready for parenting, even without a spouse.
Doctors told the U.K.’s Daily Mail that most of the young women opting for “virgin births” made the decision after waiting for the right partner began to seem futile. A few said they were afraid of sex and the psychosexual complications that go along with a sexual relationship.
What’s most surprising is that even though the ideal situation for child-rearing is within a traditional marriage or, at the least, a working relationship, these single mothers are often more emotionally and financially stable than others who have been left to bring up a child after a broken relationship. They are more successful and have an easier time than most single moms.
Laura Witjens, chief executive of the National Gamete Donation Trust, said society still tends to “freak out” when they hear about single women opting for single motherhood. “These women have a right to choose this path if they want to, but clinics do have a responsibility to consider why they want to do so,” she told the Daily Mail.
A survey in 2013 claimed that one in every 200 women in the US reported to have become pregnant without ever having had sexual intercourse. Of these women, 31% said they had signed a chastity pledge whereby they vow, usually for religious reasons, not to have sex. About 28% of those girls’ parents said they rarely talked to them about sex or contraception – compared to only 5% of other women who became pregnant and had had intercourse.
It’s unclear if many of these religious women became pregnant via IVF or through sexual activity just shy of intercourse. The stats probably include both instances.